I once told a friend that I am writing an article about love, and he asked me, "What do you know about love?" I smiled and said, "I'm always in love! I love myself, I love my daughter, I love my family, I love my life, I love my friends, and I have so much love to share with the world." I'm sure he asked me this because I once told him that I don't fall in love with easily. And this is true. When I’m dating, I use my mind to follow my heart!
What is love? Love is a thought, a feeling, an emotion, and a state of being. Love is one of those words that has no perfect definition. Everybody has their own definition of love. Love is comfort. Love is every good thing. Love is about feeling complete, happy and safe all at the same time. Love is union. Love is the key to real abundance. Love is accepting. Love is a choice. And I can continue to write more and more definitions about love.
Love is a POSITIVE thought, feeling, emotion and state of being. Goodness moves you to love. There are a lot of good things to be found in people and in the world. Love is to choose the positive side of everything and everybody. You can create love inside you and around you.
The first step to love is to find love inside you. Love yourself. Choose to love yourself completely. Create a lovely image about yourself. You are the most wonderful creation in this world. Focus your mind on what you like about you. Don't be too critical. If you find something that is not to your liking, take care of it. Change your attitude to the positive and have fun working on you. When you love and accept yourself completely you are ready to give love to other people.
Love is a gift and is unconditional. When you love somebody, this means you accept them unconditionally. You love them exactly the way they are. You don’t want or try to change them. You feel good to give your love with no conditions. You appreciate all the good things they have and respect the things that don't match your criteria. You celebrate and feel happy when they are happy. You want the best for them.
Love is active. We need to express love to ourselves and to the people we love. Giving is the best way to show love. Give your time, your attention, give yourself to the others. Give a smile, give your hand, give a hug, give a kiss. Giving depends on the kind of relationship you have with the other person. The more you give, the more you receive. Give NOW, don’t wait until tomorrow! Tomorrow could be too late.
Love is feeling good. Love is feeling joy. If you are feeling pain, anger, anxiety or any feeling that contradicts your desires, that is not love. That is fear and insecurity inside yourself. It is inside you and you need to take care of it. You are not loving yourself completely. When you NEED “somebody else" to be happy, that is not love. Love is not a necessity. Love is not a dependency on others. Look inside yourself. Find answers to your questions INSIDE you. If you need help ask for it.
Always communicate your love. There is no place for assumption in a love relationship. When you assume you are losing the opportunity to learn something new about your partner, friend or family member, and you are risking your relationship. When a relationship is full of pain and suffering, it’s because your relationship is based on projections, not on love. Love is giving all and never asking for anything in return.